Monday, August 28, 2006

I sure hope she finds me here!

I'm really going to miss her. But not as much as I've missed Michael since his unexplained disappearance. . .

Date: 12:56 PM
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From: 3kiddosmom
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Well, I for one, am glad that it is over. I don't dislike Catherine, and I admire one's ability to share their private lives for all to read. But.. enough already. Ya, you have cute kids ( though they dress funny) and you're a good mom, but you're not perfect. And I resent the way everyone responds to you as though you are the Ghandi of motherhood. We all have our own parenting styles, and we all think our kids are perfect, or darn near it. I guess they are truly more loyal fans/ friends than I. I find you hypocritical at times, and insensative to your children's needs by posting EVERYTHING about their lives for all the world to see ( or read). By the way, what happened to you and Michael. He seems to have disappeared....

166 comments:

  1. Good for you Catherine!! What a grumpy woman. After losing a friend (sorry to hear) and having all this change in your life - you certaily do not need people like that. I wish we all had a "friends ignore" list sometimes!!

    You're doing great and no I don't think you're perfect I just think you're human--that is wonderful.

    Christina
    (thanks to you I started my own blog just for myself on here called "Does wonder woman ever get exhausetd?")

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  2. Anonymous2:57 PM

    Whatever happened to if you can't say something nice, why say anything at all?

    And who was holding the gun to her head making her read your entries???

    I've been reading your BC journal since before I was even married, let alone with children. (Is that weird?) And I am not at all like you, but love how you can put into words how I feel about my now 22 month old daughter, and about the little man who will make his debut in 5 weeks. I'm glad you are still out here for me and everyone to read. Thank you.

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  3. I just finished your book, and I think you are such a fabulous writer/person/mother. We are all trying as hard as we can to make sense of motherhood in a crazy world. People like this, we don't need. I'm glad you have a sense of humor about it.
    Also, don't dwell on her negativity. Dwell on the hundreds of positive responses you got instead!

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  4. Anonymous3:22 PM

    I love your stories! I've been reading your column for years and love your honesty and humor. Many times I have been relieved to know I am not alone in some of my silly thoughts nor am I alone in the intense love for my children. Catherine, you say perfectly what I often feel as I watch my sweet ones sleeping. There will always be those that find a way to say something 'not so nice' and I guess all we can do is let them, try not to dwell, and move on. We are all doing our best to bring up happy, loving, well adjusted children. In my opinion, negativity is bad for the soul, so hopefully you don't give too much thought to those negative comments. So many more have enjoyed what you have to say!
    Tracy, Texas

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  5. Wow, I'm glad you've got lots of positive comments too. I'm never sure why people feel they need to vent like that. I have always appreciated your column even when our parenting strategies are different. No matter what tack you take in dealing with issues, the emotions are often the same and it is so good to read someone who honestly says what they are thinking and feeling. So many times it's been a relief to realize, I'm not the only one!
    Many thanks!

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  6. Excuse me... but WTF? Your job at BabyCenter.com was to WRITE ABOUT YOUR CHILDREN. Jesus. If she doesn't like what you write about, that's an easy solution: Don't go to the webpage... good lord.

    I for one think you're uber-fantastique, and I send "Waiting for Birdy" to all my expectant friends. In fact, Bringing up Ben and Birdy was inspiration for me to write my own pregnancy journal, and I'm so glad I did it, because I can look back on it and laugh and cry over everything I went through while I was pregnant.

    I'd like to say thank you for being totally honest about pregnancy and motherhood, and keep up the writing! I have yet to see anything where you're hypocritical towards anything.

    I'll even say it again: YOU ARE UBER-FANTASTIQUE!

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  7. Anonymous4:10 PM

    arrgh! why do people have to bitch in the first place? go back to bed and get up again on the right (or left) foot! keep your sour comments to yourself - and sour your own day away. Catherine - have read your 'contemplations' for years - we live in New Zealand - and you have helped me through many very tough times and i have laughed with you through some the very joyous times, too.
    i have always admired your ability to express yourself in writing. it has certainly made me laugh and cry too many times to remember - keep it up - PLEASE!!
    lots of love from downunder

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  8. How is that she seems to dislike you so and yet seem to follow your every word? I've seen a few of your critics messages(the ones that I know hurt you deeply) most of the time I just have to wonder if they are just getting a kick out of being critical or bitchy.
    Roll with it golden girl...seems you have a huge fan base. And that is just from the people vocal enough to tell you. (Like I said before I read you for years and just recently commented)
    I'll work your Wondertime column into my blog somehow soon that should give you about 11 more clicks (from my 10 loyal readers...sad to admit...mostly relatives)
    You help us in more ways than you know.

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  9. Anonymous4:29 PM

    Dear Catherine-
    I have loved your entries on Baby Center. They have made me laugh, sympathize, cry, and be amazed. I am so happy that you will continue to write on this blog, because I was afraid I would never read your essays again! Please keep up the good work and know that there are many of us who love it!
    -Nancy

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  10. Anonymous4:30 PM

    Yuck. She'll probably find you. Just like the barfing flu always seems to.

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  11. Amazing what some people will do to ruin someone else's day...I'm glad you didn't let it ruin yours!
    The good news is for the few of those grumpy fans out there (why she reads your column if she dislikes it, I'll never understand), there are at least a hundred who hang on your every word!!! I know I do!
    Jen

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  12. Hmm. See, all these years I thought your journal was about NOT being perfect, but always trying to improve. I go to bed every night saying, "Tomorrow, I'll do better." And sometimes I do. (And sometimes I don't.)

    I can't imagine why someone who seemed so annoyed with that concept would keep reading. Go figure.

    Though there will probably be a time in adolescence where someone says, "GAWD MOM. Why did you have to write all that embarrassing crap about me??" I think in the end, the journals you have created will be cherished by your children like nothing else.

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  13. Kristina5:12 PM

    Catherine,
    maybe she can write her own blog and we can all "edit" it for her. I want to say that I enjoyed the bc article so much. Even though we don't always agree I am amazed how much I can learn from you. The "Arthur Movie" taught me that I have to pre-screen EVERYTHING. I forward that entry to my sister and she was amazed by Bens comprehension. Anyway, you rock, and rock on.

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  14. H&H's Mommy5:12 PM

    You can clearly see someone's insecurities reflected in that message! The best thing about you Catherine, is that you are not perfect...you are just like us(only you truly have a gift with the written word). I have never thought you to portray your children as perfect either. You show them for exactly what they are, good and bad.
    Please keep doing what you are doing!!!

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  15. Anonymous5:13 PM

    Cathrine,
    I'm the mother of 6. The past two times I've been pregnant, I go back and reread your book. It gives me some sanity in an otherwise insane time. Our parenting styles are not the same, but the feelings we have for our children are the same. I just wish that people would realize that at the end of the day, we are all the same. We need to teach that to our children with our actions and words. Thank you for teaching me that.

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  16. Yikes, What is HER problem?
    Does everybody need to be the same? Does she have to approve of how people live their life?

    Keep writing!
    Love from Norway
    Gro

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  17. anyone else find it comical that the snarky poster stated that I find you hypocritical at times, and insensative to your children's needs by posting EVERYTHING about their lives for all the world to see ( or read)" but immediately asks about Michael? lol... talk about hypocritical! lol why didn't she just write "Don't talk about your children, but talk about your life partner...."

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  18. Eee gads. At first I thought someone had hijacked your blog.

    What kind of bitch doesn't like hearing about cute kids. And of course, we know you don't portray yourself as perfect. We're not stupid. We get you.

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  19. Oh, when I see Michael I'll tell him you're looking for him.

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  20. I meant "if" I see Michael.

    I made it sound like I kidnapped him or am having a sordid affair with him or something....

    I think it's so funny that she called your kids cute and then ragged on their clothes. I don't know why that amuses me.

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  21. This is why I was so surprised to hear that you had read all your comments on BabyCenter. I think if I were to write a column, I wouldn't be able to bear to read all the comments, because of finding comments like that. They'd NIGGLE at me. I'd want to ANSWER. Things like, "Why have you been reading all these columns, then, if you're so annoyed by them?" Things like, "What would I ever do without such exhaustive input on my life from strangers?" Things like, "Shut up!"

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  22. Kristen7:05 PM

    I don't even get it. I always felt like your column was about NOT being perfect, and about how a mother can totally be willing to fling herself off a cliff for her kids and yet still find them infuriating/challenging, and about how motherhood is like this long road of things to try to do better. I found such comfort in your column because you were so human and so frank about your mistakes, and it made me feel like if I slipped up I wasn't alone. I don't think this snarky weirdo ever even READ your column.

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  23. Hi Catherine,

    Long time reader/lurker here (two plus years) - and this just prompted me to finally comment. You need to just ignore these types. For some reason the world of blogging attracts these types - not sure if it's an insecurity thing or what, but why someone would choose to carp about an online columnist and/or blogger when clearly if you don't like the way someone writes you need to just NOT READ IT, is beyond me. I think it is a weird need for attention or people trying to shore up their own pathetic egos or something. Anyway, it's a sure measure of blog/online success when you start attracting these types - their primary motivation seems to be jealousy of your well earned renown.

    So - keep writing and we'll keep happily reading and when you attract these sorts of flies - just swat them away without a second thought.

    - Laura Garcia, Easthampton, MA

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  24. Jeez, what an unhappy person. As has been stated, no one is making her read your column. Those of us who know better read your column because you aren't perfect. Thank you for being utterly unique.

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  25. Hi Catherine,

    Like so many others, I am sorry to hear about your friend dying. Many healing thoughts are coming your way from one newish momma in Oregon(me!).

    And like so many others, I wanted to say thank you for your journal and blog- your insight, your rants, your "neurotic" thoughts and obsessions, your humor, your wisdom....I started reading your column at babycenter long before I was pregnant and now I give your book to any pregnant mom that I know and love.

    And since you seem to like reading other blogs, check out this one written by a dear friend of mine about her adventures in mommahood:
    http://mamapie.typepad.com/mamapie/

    You rock! Thanks for sharing your life with all of us.

    Cara

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  26. busymomx38:05 PM

    Ditto all the comments above, and I also wanted to tell you that I'm really enjoying your blog - even more than babycenter or Wondertime because it does seem more like the real you - unedited. Thanks for sharing with us all!

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  27. Holly8:12 PM

    Oh boy. I'm so sorry that there are psychos out there that feel the need to write you their horrible comments. How on earth does someone like that live with themselves? I think it's a relection of her own self esteem issues. How sad. And the stuff about Michael? What the? That makes no sense. The fact that you posted it shows you're taking it the right way. People like that just need to go...

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  28. Hah! What an odd ball. I love hate mail because the person writing it is usually a boob and its fun to make fun of said person. That ladys a cuckoo head! Write on Catherine, we all love it. :)

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  29. Allyson2448:18 PM

    Catherine, long time lurker and multi-year fan coming out of the woodwork to say that I love your kids clothes! I am a Hanna - a - holic and I laugh every time I see Ben or Birdy wearing something my munchkins wear too. I love getting a chance to read your posts. Thank you!

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  30. maggie8:36 PM

    What is wrong with people? Why would someone take the time to write such a hateful message? That was so completely uncalled for! I'm glad you have a sense of humor about it b/c as you can see from the rest of us, we all think you are fabulous, girl! Do not listen to one word that woman says. I think you have such a wonderful way of expressing the thoughts and feelings so many of us have had. Again I say IGNORE HER. Evil witch. ;-)

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  31. Jessica8:48 PM

    ha ha...poor her! I can't imagine the comments you must have gotten from all of the sorry people in the world who probably feel like they have to cut others down to make themselves look better. It just doesn't work. I truly feel sorry for people like that. Keep on keepin' on, Catherine! You rock (and so do your kids' clothes...)! When are you going to use the F-word? I'll believe it when I read it...have a great day.

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  32. Sorry to hear you've misplaced your children's father. How terribly careless of you. :)

    I will never understand why people bother to spend so much time reading and commenting on writing they proclaim to dislike so intensely. I mean, do they really have so much time on their hands?

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  33. That's terrible that she said that, but awesome that you posted it here. I like you even more now that I get to see another side of you.

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  34. Susan9:28 PM

    What the ...? I bet that woman knows the person who got in a twist because Ben wasn't wearing enough "boy" colored clothing and offered to send you some. That still cracks me up and yet annoys me at the same time. I had a similar experience with someone commenting on my daughter's Spiderman socks. People need to get a grip.

    Moving on. I'm so glad you are still writing, and we can keep on reading you here and at Wondertime. And yes, I got the book, too.

    Susan

    P.S. I hope you hear from Michael soon.

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  35. Wow. She must be very important (in her own mind) to make such proclamations about others' work and expect them to care.

    I've loved your column for so many years and I'm thrilled I get to read more about your/my life. I have children the same ages as yours and I can't tell you the number of times I've read your column about Ben doing something (incessantly pushing up his sleeves, for example) only to find my own child doing the same thing a few weeks later. It's so comforting to know that my kids aren't weirdos and that so many parenting experiences are universal. You obviously bring much joy to many. Thank you.

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  36. I could post every day on how much I adore you! I was (alarmingly) beside myself when I thought you weren't going to be around anymore. I felt like I was losing my best friend. You have no idea how much your columns and book have touched our family. Thank you so much for what you do!

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  37. Elizabeth10:50 PM

    I just read through the previous commenters, and there's really not much left for me to say, so I'll quote my mother - I thought of this line of hers when I read your post today: "Good Gravy Maria!" I've always liked that exclamation.

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  38. butterflyamy11:27 PM

    Catherine - so sorry to hear about the loss of your friend.

    I'm so happy to have found you here! I've been reading your BC articles since the beginning and love your writing. You've helped me a ton through this parenting journey!

    BTW, I just received my order of Waiting for Birdy (2nd order) and It's a Boy. I love your entry in It's a Boy. I was always so annoyed with the anti-pink comments over at BC. My three year-old son is a huge Dora fan and has a pink backpack, sheets, etc. And for a while, his favorite toy was a baby doll.

    Take Care

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  39. meredith11:38 PM

    i'm so glad to find you here! i was desolate that you were leaving bc. i for one NEED to hear honesty about the fact none of us are perfect- it makes me feel so much less alone about the terrible damage i am sure i am inflicting on my child every day!! blog on, girlfriend!!

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  40. Dear Catherine,
    I have just bookmarked your blog. I'm thrilled that I'll be able to continue reading your "journal".
    I read your journal on BabyCenter through two pregnancies (and can't believe I never posted a comment, although I often thought about it) and as I muddled my way through motherhood with two girls under the age of three. Your journal was a source of many smiles and some tears for me. Your voice was such a refreshing one to "hear" on the internet -- I'm so tired of mothers trying to make everything sound perfect about their kids and their lives. The world is an imperfect place, but that's what makes it interesting.

    I found your writing so inspiring that I started my own blog about a year and a half ago (sifandanna.blogspot.com).

    Many heartfelt thanks for sharing your stories with us!

    P.S. Ignore that horrible, crabby post. But, like I said, the world is an imperfect place :-)

    Sif

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  41. Anonymous7:21 AM

    Hi Catherine (and everyone else)! Greetings from South Africa, from one of your biggest fans. I was so happy to hear that your stories would continue here. When are you publishing a new book, I think it's about time! Just b.t.w. what is this about Michael being missing? Am I missing something???

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  42. I am sorry to hear that you have temporarily misplaced Michael. However, once he returns from being randomly disappeared perhaps he could give my husband a lesson on how to do that? As much as I love mine, I think that having the ability to randomly vanish is a trait all men should posess.... we just should never let them use it unsupervised.

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  43. Anonymous8:18 AM

    Well, someone's underwear seems to have gotten a little buncy. And stayed that way.
    I'm guessing thong.

    Would we all want to be your friend if you were perfect? I think not.


    NCMO

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  44. Anonymous8:58 AM

    Thank goodness you're not perfect, how could we love you if you were?

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  45. What the?! Who the heck has enough time in the day to spew such negativity? Gee whiz. And P.S. Who said we have to agree with everything a person does in order to enjoy them as writers? What a fun, fun gal.

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  46. Sarah9:32 AM

    she starts with "enough already" and then ends with a question "what happened to you and Michael?" obviously wanting to know more... what the bloody hell is that all about?

    you've got to feel kind of sorry for her really. one mixed up cookie.

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  47. What a nut! I couldn't figure out how to comment over there, but i was saddened to that it was ending. I had followed your articles since the beginning..I would email your posts to family with titles like " SO true..or...GOD this is funny..or....I LOVE IT!"
    Keep it coming mamma!!

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  48. Unbelievable.

    Methinks she just didn't "get it".

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  49. You are so hysterical. :)

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  50. What the hell? This woman must be insane! Nobody thinks that you are a parenting Gandhi, because if you read the column you would know that nothing can be further from the truth. What a sad sad thing to post...

    I am so grateful to find another mom who strives to be better and kinder and listen more. Sometimes I have this feeling that this whole life thing is a conspiracy to slowly make me a better person...

    I am sad to hear about the loss of your friend. I have been waiting a little bit for this bit of news since reading the book and then that little post about all of you going to a B&B.

    Was Ben playing solitaire because he was sad too? Sometimes I do that for longer than I care to admit. lol - as I am writing this Barney is singing about little people having big feelings

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  51. Why is it that the "trolls" (you know, the people who troll the internets looking for people to insult) are always people who can't spell? Just wondering.

    I'm so sorry for your loss, and I hope you can find comfort in your memories.

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  52. Anonymous11:12 AM

    another long time BC lurker that has followed you (although not in a stalker kind of way, i swear) here. you have referenced negative comments, and how they made you feel, in your BC blog, and i never understood how people could feel like they have the right to be so negative...you are a great mom, person, and writer. the lone voice of dissent may be loud, but it is also crazy. she's complaining about the clothing of children for god's sake...my son eschews all clothing until the temp drops to 60.

    as far as michael goes, try bringing a box of cookies outside and shaking it. works on dogs, children, partners, parents, and just about anyone/thing else kicking around in the neighborhood.

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  53. What a wingnut. Why do these people read these blogs and columns if they don't like what they find there? And why post such lame comments? Criticizing the way the kids dress? I mean come on. Seriously.

    Take care,
    Lori

    P.s. sorry about your friend

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  54. Hey I've been looking all over for the Ghandi of Motherhood--I'm so glad to finally find her!!

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  55. Elaine12:27 PM

    Someone just sounds awfully jealous. How disappointing.

    I'm so glad you're not perfect, either :)

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  56. Anonymous12:58 PM

    Well, how's this for an indication of how beautifully written and entertaining your posts are ... I read them weekly through the Parenting site and intent to follow you through your blog and the Wonder Years site, and (here's the kicker)I don't have kids. Nor will I ever have kids (given my age). But your writing speaks to me as a human being, even though I'm not a mother. I like hearing real stories about real people, and I was majorly bummed that you were ending your column, then equally elated that you'll continue to post through different venues. Thanks, Catherine. You brighten my week.

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  57. I've just been over at babycenter, reading all sorts of hateful comments directed toward Joyce, writer of "Tending Violet." I'm not even sure why I read that stuff because it just depresses me that there are so many mean-spirited poor spellers in this world. I'm thrilled that you're writing at Wondertime and also this blog--it's like "Catherine: Unplugged." Or maybe actually "Catherine: Plugged In"! Whichever, I greatly enjoy your writing and hearing about your hilarious and quirky children. By the way, when you find Michael maybe you two could revisit the whole idea of whether or not you're actually married. (-:

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  58. Anonymous1:16 PM

    WTF? You should see her MySpace page. (Just google the name)
    I wonder why she chooses to put information about her "kiddos" on the internet if she finds it "insensitive to their needs". Oh, and your the hypocrite? I sense a little insecurity....

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  59. Anonymous1:16 PM

    Oh I am sooooo relieved to have chuckled my guts out this morning both at your WonderTime columns and now at this... you can count on me girlfriend for a click or two (two hundred that is :0)

    You've got me blogging, well at least signing up for a blog. Let's see if I actually do it. Right now I can't even get back into my BLOG... I'll figure it out! I'll be LifewithKimC when I can figure it out!

    Grumpy, grumpy, go away and leave us in our new world of unabashed Catherine worship and find somebody else who doesn't care what you have to say to bug!

    Keep on writing and we'll keep on laughin and loving Catherine!

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  60. Sorry about your friend. Sorry about 3kiddosmom. I hope she's less grumpy to her kids than she is to you. Why did she keep reading?
    (sarcasm) Where DID Michael go, anyway? (/sarcasm)
    BTW, the good thing about having a blog to write in addition to a paid column is that you can be as random and Faulkneresque as you want on your blog. I like it. (It makes more sense to me when it doesn't make sense. My kid is 11 mos old. Coherence is not in the plane I'm living on.)

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  61. Catherine,
    I found a quote in one of my past Oprah Magazines and I instantly thought of you so I wanted to share:

    "The best moments in reading are when you come across something - a thought, a feeling, a way of looking at things - which you had thought unique and particular to you. Now here it is, set down by someone else, a person you have never met, someone even who is long dead. And it is as if a hand has come out and taken yours." ~Alan Bennett

    Thank you for taking my hand, Catherine!

    Jackie, New York

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  62. Hehehe...I bet you love being able to call people out a little now, eh?

    Honestly, she didn't HAVE to read if she didn't enjoy it, right? People are so strange. This parenting thing is a wild ride, and its wonderful of you to share your ups and downs with the rest of us. It helps us realize that we are all on the same rollercoaster. It keeps us SANE. :)

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  63. pfomby2:48 PM

    Catherine, I love your writing and your mothering, and I think the blogosphere needs more people like you! I’m so glad you’ve set up this site so your fans can keep up with you. My Buddhist mother would say the Nasty Poster was writing from a place of great unhappiness, and I think she would be right. I’ll try to muster some compassion…

    Let me take this opportunity to say that your piece on eggplant in O magazine brought tears to my eyes – classically Catherine Newmanesque in its mix of humor, insight, and empathy. Keep up the great work!

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  64. Petroleum Poet3:23 PM

    What a freak! When someone is intentionally mean to me, I try to be really compassionate and think about what a terrible life they must have, that they have to be rude to other people. Then when their back is turned, I flip them off with both hands.

    Keep doing what you're doing!

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  65. Margomac3:54 PM

    Yes, like many others, I started crying in my cubicle when I read you were reading Babycenter. Of course, I was a suffering emotional wreck at the time as my twin boys started K'garten this fall. So, I can't give you all the credit. But I was thrilled to find you again! I think everyone did a great job slamming Ms. Nasty! Also - wanted to let you know that I thoroughly enjoyed reading the book, of which you were a part, essays on mothers and sons. Thanks for continuing to put in words our feelings, joys, and shortcomings, so beautifully (and often comically)!

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  66. Anonymous4:22 PM

    Catherine,

    I read your column on bc and I commented once or twice to let you know how much you touched my life. I, like others, feel as if we are friends. Don't get me wrong, I know that we aren't but it feels like we are. Thank you. I wish I could put my feelings into words as eloquently as you do.

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  67. Catherine~

    Yay! Welcome to the blogging world! I have been reading your BC article for a couple of years now. I orderd and read your waiting for birdy book too. I also commented a few times on BC... I am so glad to find you here!

    BTW I have been on blogspot for a year, and if you want, check me out... I am not near the author you are, but I do have photos!

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  68. Anonymous5:18 PM

    I just want to say how much your writing has meant to me. You have such a talent for communicating the essence of how so many of us feel about our children. Your honesty is uplifting and inspiring. Thank you.

    Nikki

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  69. stacey5:47 PM

    *snort*

    you've got to be kidding me.

    People respond to you the way they do because you are REAL. And because you can spell. ;^)

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  70. It takes a special person to jump through the near indecipherable hoops that babycenter has set up for posters, just to leave a comment like that. Good luck finding Michael... Who knows, perhaps if she clicks over, just to criticize the blog, she might find him first...

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  71. Rebecca8:25 PM

    What, exactly, was the point of leaving a comment like that? The purpose of that posting was to say "goodbye" not "good riddance".

    I don't read your column expecting that it's been written by a perfect mother. Really, I'm in it for the humor. Ok, and the general uplifting qualities. It does feel a bit strange that I've become attached to a family in New England that I don't even know... a part of it feels nostalgic to me because I grew up in New England and when I read your column I can still feel how Norman Rockwell it is. I'm glad somebody's kids get to experience Cape Cod every summer because my poor little Mojave Desert city kids don't.

    I don't think your children would be embarassed about what you have publically written about them. Sure, the potty training kinds of things would be embarassing to a lot of older kids, but once they've gotten to the young adult phase they'll forgive you. Especially when they understand that it is how you made them enough money to help them through college. Well I hope you make enough money for that.

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  72. Geez...guess someone was having a bad day!

    What a strange comment - wasn't the whole purpose of your column to share the stories of your children's lives?

    Don't let people like that bother you...we all love you, and are glad to have two places to check in with you now!

    Take care.

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  73. Jealous. You are so well-loved that it just makes her want to lay down on the floor, kicking and screaming like an overtired toddler. Maybe she should have. Certainly would have been better than putting her worst self out there for all the world to see.

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  74. Anonymous9:53 PM

    Catherine - along with the 73 other posters so far, I can only add my thanks for your fantastic column and my joy that we can continue to share your life and thoughts; as a working mum (living in Singapore - half a world away) of 3 (including twins almost exactly the same age as Birdy), I have found your column on BC a great reality check on a weekly bais ; so refreshing to hear from another mum who wants it all to go so right, but recognizes when it doesn't.

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  75. KooKoo land! It took me some time to figure out what this posting was, but then I got it...silly and sad, this person.

    I haven't yet seen your Eggplant article for Oprah that's mentioned above...but, I have to tell you, I LOVED your Tofu piece and we repeatedly make the ginger-soy one (my kids love it). I've passed it along to lots of others too...it's magic. So, not only do I appreciate your reflections on parenting, if the tofu article was any indication (and now I have to find the Eggplant one) you may be a perfect foil for the preternaturally perky Rachel Ray with your food reflections (though her affect seems to have served her well!!)

    Keep up the good work on all fronts!

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  76. Just adding my two cents to say that I think you are a fabulous writer, a very loving mother and you're just making your way like the rest of us. I hope you find the time to blog, I will miss your Baby Center column, but so happy to see the wondertime one. Keep up the great work.

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  77. Izzy'sMom12:29 AM

    She is probably just a little jealous, although that seems like such an obvious thing to say. It's easy to look at someone's life from the outside and think that person's life is perfect. You have great kids, a WONDERFUL partner (Just from what you say about him he seems amazing, and compared to most men he is a gem.), a thriving career, lots of friends, and you really seem to know who you are. I'm sure to you it's just your life, and we don't see all the problems you experience, but you really are pretty lucky. However, a person can be envious of someone (which is human and normal)or feel hateful jealousy toward someone, which, considering that last odd comment about Michael, is what she seems to feel toward you. It's so obvious I almost feel a little sorry for her.

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  78. Isn't it great to have your own blog where you can make fun of a "grumpy old troll" whenever you like? I'm new to blogging but I've heard that the more attention you give your "trolls" (people who leave hurtful comments) the more they like it because they want attention.

    I'm one of your biggest fans and I'm so happy to have this blog and also your new Wondertime stories to read. I'm also hoping that you are writing another book because I loved Waiting for Birdy. If you are can you tell us?

    I read your articles in Family Fun, but I have a question about what you write for Oprah... is it just recipes or did I miss some articles?

    Best of luck with everything!

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  79. Anonymous8:26 AM

    Just read this week's instalment at Wondertime.....whoever is busying themselves rewriting your titles should make sure next time to add some exclamation marks and italics. Is that the same person responsible for the photo staging from the previous week??? ;-) If I lived in the US I would have to do better than that for you. Maybe an arty black and white with all your noses down in the crab hole (and your you-know-whats pointing skyward). At least you would look like the real people you so wonderfully are. Good luck with new column. LOVE your work.

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  80. Anonymous9:02 AM

    WTF? WTF? Let's hope she doesn't spit out any more kiddos and become 4kiddosmom...It is people like this that confirms my theory that the majority of the world are morons and the minority are just trying to survive despite them. So sorry that this had to be a blip on your radar screen. Know that you are truly an inspiring mom and writer. Your book was phenominal and gave me tremendous support through my second pregnancy. Thank you Catherine.

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  81. Too funny! I always enjoyed your column. If it had bothered me, I probably wouldn't have kept reading. And I certainly wouldn't find the time to post mean comments!

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  82. Anonymous10:23 AM

    Wow, what an unhappy woman! I'm glad to see your many fans confirming what a blessing you are to the rest of us. I'm sorry to hear about the loss of your friend. I have a friend battling breast cancer. It sure is tough sitting by helplessly when someone you care about is in so much physical and emotional pain. God bless you, Catherine, for all of the love, compassion and kindness that you generate through your words!

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  83. What a Betty. Everybody knows you're the Ho Chi Min of parenting.
    Sheesh.
    (Oh, the Girl is helping type and she says to tell Birdy, "Birdy, I miss you. Uh, I wanna say I want her to keep. I want to bring her home and play with her." But you know, only cause she's all perfect and stuff.)
    xo

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  84. Wow. I guess you have the distinction of being someone she loves to hate. I have read every single one of your "eighty katrillion" journal entries on BabyCenter and was delighted to find you here and on Wondertime.

    It is most assuredly thanks to you that I have my own blog: http://babybunia.blogspot.com/

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  85. Anonymous1:11 PM

    Who peed in her Wheaties?

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  86. Anonymous1:45 PM

    I've never understood why people want to take away positive experiences/accomplishments/dreams/hopes from others. Is it jealousy, envy, spitefulness? I think it was Maya Angelou who said that some people will peck at you until there is nothing left of you--if you let them. These "peckers" are best ignored and given a small wish that they will one day find in themselves a little more happiness, a little more love.

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  87. What a hoot. The amount of effort it took that person to track you down! I know I had to google your name a few different ways just to find your blog site.

    Oh well, everyone has their fans and critics. Don't take this the wrong way but I can't imagine how somebody could harbor a resentment about something as innocuous as this. I mean let's face it, your commentary focuses on potty training and hermit crabs. Not exactly on the level of "War and Peace."

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  88. Carmen2:40 PM

    Whew. I just ate a pimento cheese sandwich for lunch. I hate pimento cheese. I mean, it's pretty (although what are those weird red things in it?), but far from perfect. Why do people make pimento cheese into the Gandhi of sandwich fillings? I finally managed to swallow the last bite, and I, for one, am glad it's over.

    (I found you, Catherine, so I'm sure snarky mom will find you, too.)

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  89. Carmen2:44 PM

    Did I mention how much I resent people who like pimento cheese?

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  90. Rachel4:19 PM

    It's always easier for people to criticize other people's faults than look at their own--which is what this negative nelly has done. At first I thought someone had hijacked Catherine's journal and was glad when I realized that wasn't the case. Parenting isn't about perfection....it's about doing better every day, which Catherine--and others--have often said.

    I feel sorry for people who make negative comments--just shows their own lack of self-esteem. To all those who feel they have to make negative comments, look within yourselves first! Then keep your nastiness to yourself. ;)

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  91. Vicki4:27 PM

    Catherine, I am probably not saying anything that hasn't been said before.. but I have laughed and cried.. and thoroughly enjoyed your entire time on BC. I was so excited to to see your column. I have felt like my sweet Emily has grown up friends with Ben. And if we are not all the same... well the more rich our lives are.. You have the courage to share your ups and downs.. and flaws as well as all your good points.. And tho I am not in your circle of friends or even aquantinces.. I feel bless to have been shared with.

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  92. Anonymous5:15 PM

    I thought for a second that *you* had written that to be sarcastic and kind of poke fun at yourself in a funny way (I guess...it was pretty late). I thought "No WAY would anyone really WRITE that!!" How rude. I am so glad you're on here and have an article elsewhere online, too. I almost cried when I read that you were finishing up on BC. Ask my husband, he'll tell you all about it. He made fun of me at the time, but after I pulled up your new article I caught him reading it when he thought I wasn't looking!! Anyway, I'm glad you're still around. Take care and IGNORE PEOPLE WHO CAN'T BE DECENT. :)

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  93. Anonymous5:17 PM

    Catherine,
    You are the best. I don't have the words to decribe how thankful I am for all your writing. You helped me through a bad bought of Post-Partum depression. I'm so glad to find you again! You have a good, kind heart. And many times Your words come back to me when I need them the most. I hope I don'at sound too cheesy. I just want you to know how you have touched the hearts and lives of so many Mommys.

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  94. Anonymous7:32 PM

    Catherine, I have always wanted to write to you, but never have. Today I made an effort to figure out how to do this blogging thing and my only disappointment is that it took a complete moron to get me to do it. I felt conflicted--both wanting you to know that I support you ((we actually do parent similarly right down to: Every Day Blessings and Becoming The Parent You Want To Be (my Bibles) and not genderizing our children)) and also not wanting to give this bizarro any attention. She's definitley got a Personality Disorder which is unfortunate because medication will never tame that beast. Poor woman; I feel sad for her. While you share your loss with all of us, imagine her, probably not having experienced the true meaning of real friendship. That's lonliness. But alas, I digress... you are a breath of fresh air. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. Jessica

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  95. Stephanie H.9:35 PM

    Whew! She's a treat. I am glad that you posted her comment for us to all get a giggle from. I am so glad that you are blogging here, and writing the column at Wondertime. I will make sure you get plenty of clicks every day! Thanks for your wonderfully funny words of wisdom. Don't go changin'!!

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  96. For a while I was a frequent poster at BabyCenter. This very woman (and one of her minions) was the reason that I stopped posting. After one afternoon of trading comments (me: why can't you just use courtesy when you are posting, isn't that what we teach our kids? Her: if you don't like it, suck it!) I stopped posting. I still read your column every week, but I didn't go near the boards. I always felt a bit ashamed, like I had abandoned you - I should have stayed, trying to be a voice of reason. I didn't and I have always wanted to say I am sorry. So, I am sorry.

    Props to you for calling her out. I am so glad you finally have a voice to tell it like it is.

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  97. I often say that the cruel reality of the human psyche is that you could have a hundred people lined up in a row and if 99 compliment you and one criticizes you, guess which one you will remember (word for word, and for years to come)?

    That sort of thing is especially difficult when we're at our most vulnerable at a time like this for you...not to mention on a "normal" day when you're juggling parenthood, partnership, work and learning to grow, improve and nurture your own person.

    I don't think any of us harbour the illusion that you're the perfect mother. I think we recognize ourselves in you and admire the ability that you have to appreciate all of the wildness and wonderfulness of this life and put it in writing.

    Thank you.

    (P.S. it appears that raehan knows where Michael is!)

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  98. Oh my god, I am so glad to find this blog - I loved Parent Center - just your section - for years. I think that perhaps a blog plus a column about mindful parenting will be even better. I met you in DC at a signing for Waiting for Birdy, and while I stammered out some ridiculous question about Ben, the monks and the sand, my then 5 year old stuck chewing gum up her nose. I've been doing Zen meditation for about a year, and I read Mindful Parenting (both encouraged by the Parent Center columns), and I have to say my response to the Kabat-Zinn's was, "Wow, that dad sure is gone a lot." I think your columns that weren't about mindfulness show what it is to accept life as it is, that I eagerly await a column about that topic explicitly.

    I'm so so glad you will still be writing things I can read! It is such a blessing to laugh and cry so hard...

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  99. Let me say that I cried and cried when I thought that I would have no more Ben and Birdy to enjoy.... and then I was reading Wondertime....I saw your kids and then I cried again, because I had found your writing again.

    No, I am not a stalker, just one mom who has felt like a fish out of water and then found your column and felt like you were a cyber friend agonizing over the same minutia.

    A pox on the crabbies!

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  100. Hi Catherine,

    Not sure if you will have time to read this (though knowing you from your writing, you probably will!), but just wanted to tell you that you have been the best therapy for me over the last several years. If it wasn't for you, I might have gone insane trying to become a perfectionist and mother rolled up in one. It was you who kept me going when there were times I didn't feel like confiding my woes to anyone.

    That comment probably hurt you (Parts of it even hurt me when I read it), but I really hope that you let it bounce right off. I have no idea why there was a need for hostility since she -did- start with the disclaimer of saying she didn't dislike you...

    But I guess it really does stem from insecurity. One moment she said that she admired your ability to share, then the next she said you were a hypocrite for sharing too much. Um, who made her the authority on what the right amount to share is?

    Please stay resilient. As mothers I think we must be the first line of defense for our kids, and if we let these little things get to us, we are likely too emotional to be able to really protect our kids. I never thought you tried to impose your parenting style, and if women responded with overwhelming support, doesn't that mean that it's the majority opinion out there? Nobody forced anyone to read or change their parenting.

    I've never commented in all the years that I have read, but this comment just totally got me feeling fiercely protective. I think it's because as readers we know that you put yourself out there partially because of us. So whenever you get criticised I can't help but feel guilty. Anyways, this comment has gotten long enough. Stay well, you awesome human you!

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  101. What a meanie. How can people go through life so grumpy?

    I was so upset when I saw you wer eleaving Baby Center, but at least we can find you here and elsewhwre. Don't stop writing about your lovely family - we (ok, atleast most of us) adore reading about you all!

    And I have to tell you, I just finished Waiting for Birdy - having sat down to read it the instant it arrived from Amazon and devouring it in one huge reading frenzy - and it was absolutely wonderful. I laughed out loud so many times - and forced my husband to listen to my scarcely understandable laugh-choked readings - but I also cried, touched by so many of the beautiful emotions and expressions you phrase so perfectly. I will be soon sending the book to many friends as gifts...it is too good to miss.

    Thanks for writing.
    Mimi

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  102. My goodness, what a grump. Whatever, I can't imagine opening up as much as you do and then getting that kind of a response. I'm just happy you continue to write for us regular gals who are relieved to know we're not alone. Thank you thank you thank you.

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  103. Tracy Plata12:46 PM

    I am stunned by that woman's venom! I've been reading your column since I signed up for baby centre when my 5 year old was born. I absolutely love it, and am ecstatic that I can find you here and at wondertime. Your insight and wisdom may not be to everyone's taste, but seriously! Every time i read about Ben's penchant for colorful clothes, or Birdy "passionate" personality, I see my two boys, and am reminded that the temper tantrum yesterday over pants vs. shorts (it's about 13C in Kingston Canada these mornings) is more about how he's developing as an independent little human who is vastly different from his brother, than about thwarting my clearly superior parenting logic. I learned that from you. My weekly updates from babycentre won't be the same, but my wondertime subscription should help that! Keep up the amazing, touching, inspiring and fabulous work, Catherine!

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  104. Anonymous12:56 PM

    Ignore her.

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  105. Anonymous2:42 PM

    Whoa, she seems way out of line! I for one love your posts (and your book). My son does so many of the things Ben and Birdy do, and I am so glad to have someone say the things I feel!

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  106. Anonymous3:01 PM

    What a bitch. i have enjoyed you tremendously and was so thankful to find you here and at Wondertime. Thank you for sharing your life with us!

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  107. Anonymous3:22 PM

    Carmen, laughed my ass off at your comment! However, I just have to say how awful I think it is for you to be giving out so much information on your pimento cheese sandwich, how insensitive of you.

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  108. Man! What an attitude. Somebody forgot the golden rule! Isn't it sad that so many people go through life projecting their bad mood, day, attitude onto others? Good for you to let it slide off your back.
    I used to be a flight attendant for Comair, and the latest accident in Lexington makes me want to scream to everyone (maybe even to myself) that we have to play nice! You never know.

    Love that you are here! Have a fantastic week!

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  109. If you're weird for divulging everything about your kids, what does that make her for reading it week after week if she doesn't like it? And what kind of cow talks about the way kids dress? I like you, Catherine. Your columns are always sweet.

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  110. That's great that you posted that! What a crab that woman is (naked or not)!

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  111. HUH????

    Did she break her funny bone, or what? Unbelievable. Gaaawd, some people ;-)

    But she reminds me, I always wanted to tell you I just adore the way your kids dress! My son picked out a pair of purple shoes (croc lookalikes) the other day and I was so proud that I hadn't done anything up to that point to discourage him from choosing colours typically associated with girls' stuff.

    I'm sure you've heard it a million times before, but isn't it interesting that it's only recently that pink has become the girl colour, and blue the boy colour. It used to be the other way around since pinks and reds are more firey and blue more soothing. WHO CARES?

    This is less kind, but she reminds me of something else I recently heard... "The stick up her @$$ has a stick up its @$$" Ha ha.

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  112. Rebecca7:28 PM

    Could I also just say that I think it's totally charming the way your kids dress. Please don't take it to heart how this thoughtless person commented on that.

    And I wanted to say that I love the photos included with your journal (especially now that they are BIGGER photos). I'd hate for you to feel like you shouldn't disclose visual images of the kids and your life anymore just because someone said something ridiculous. You are right-on in your thinking about letting the kids be themselves... and if being Ben's self is wearing purple, pink, or hello kitty, I think that's great.

    It is also rather naive of this person to think that you reveal everything about your children in your journals. You give us a few paragraphs each week, that is certainly not EVERYTHING. I believe you have definitely used discretion when including or witholding information from us. (i.e. Ben's birthday gifts. Which still drives me nuts wondering what could have possibly been so unusual as not to post it.)

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  113. You DO have a hunky massage therapist. Reminds me of my husband in college before he cut all his sexy hair off...*sigh*

    My son found two moles digging in the park yesterday (at either ends of one little tunnel) and we watched them for a bit -- well, we watched the dirt kind of tunnelling itself mysteriously and we just imagined the moles, but still -- and I thought, "well it's not hermit crabs having a shellfest, but I bet Catherine would find some neat way for her kids to appreciate this situation." So I tried my best.

    I am always so happy to have such strange thoughts come to mind thanks to your writings because they really do help me remember to try to enjoy life every minute and teach my kids how to do the same.

    And I want to know Ben's b-day presents too. :) Come on...

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  114. I've read your babycenter column from the beginning and have thoroughly enjoyed it. Thanks so much for sharing your life with us. I've really enjoyed reading about you and your family. I'm glad to find you here and at Wondertime. (I loved the Naked Crabs piece.) Keep up the great writing. I have 2 daughters, a five-year-old and a 2 year-old and I've learned so much from your pieces. Thanks!

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  115. I think we all need to ease up on Ms. Grumy. After all, you'd be irritable too, if someone dropped a house on YOUR sister. : )

    Catherine, I am SO glad you aren't disappearing! I was so sad that you weren't comtinuing your column. Your Ben and my Ben are almost the same age and are so similar in temperment! It's easy to love your kids because they are so much like my own two littlest kiddos.

    I'm glad you aren't perfect. I have laughed and cried over your column and I can't WAIT until you come to Ohio for a book signing! We aren't all that far from New England, you know!

    Wendy

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  116. Anonymous1:10 PM

    I hope you don't let this strange post change your mind about blogging! I was miserable for two weeks when I read that your BabyCenter column was ending. You had the funniest, most well written journal of them all. You are not only an amazing mother but an amazing writer. Any books coming out soon? I can only hope!

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  117. Alesha3:01 PM

    She just doesn't GET it, does she? You don't try to portray yourself as perfect. No, much less than perfect. That's the point. And that's why so many of us hang on your every word. We see ourselves in your doubts and in your mistakes. It's been like a weekly affirmation that I'm not the only one who screws up, or the only one who can find parts of parenting mind-numbing, or the only one whose children's quirks can be so endearing one moment and then full-blown irritating at another. I am not perfect, you are not perfect, nor is 3kiddosmom. We're all just trying to get through with some sense of peace and happiness. Let's wish this for her, since her negativity is taking up space within her that could be occupied by love and a sense of community -which the rest of us feel when we read your words!

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  118. Some people are just mean to be mean. I have thoroughly enjoyed your weekly articles and have laughed, cried and empathized right along with everyone else. I'm thrilled you're here and on Wondertime and look forward to hearing more. Don't let the bad people get you down. Keep on doing what you're doing. Personally, I can't wait to find out what's next!

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  119. Anonymous5:47 PM

    Catherine - "sticks 'n' stones"

    I have been using your column as a pick-me-up at work for the last 4 years. My youngest is about Ben's age and I've enjoyed hearing about his and Birdy's antics. I've loved your topics and anecdotes but I've also found that your writing style - the self-depricating humor, the fantastic, poetic word choice and so on - really makes me feel warm & fuzzy. Even when you are chatting about things that get coughed up.

    Thank you

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  120. Caaaaaath-riiiine. What are you doing lady? Would you have told your kids to post something like that? Or would you have asked them maybe to imagine how someone was feeling that would say something like that? "Is she feeling really bad inside?" Ben might say. "So bad that the badness comes right out and the only place she can put it is in a computer?" And you would say, "Yes. She isn't happy so she wants other people to understand how she feels, so she tries to make them feel bad too." And then Birdy might say, "Do her kids feel mean too? Do they feel bad inside?" And you might say, "Yes, so we should be extra nice to her so she can feel good like we do."

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  121. Catherine!
    I think there is a glitch in your latest column at Wondertime. It seems the previous column last paragraph was kept by mistake in the end of the new one (about Birdy). I thought you would like to know. See, I'm a journalist myself, and I know this kind of thing happens... I was surprised to see a new column so soon after the last one, anyway, maybe it wasn't supposed to be posted yet?
    From a fan of yours from Brazil (btw, have your book been translated yet? I'm also a translator and I would love to translate it to Portuguese)
    :-)

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  122. Catherine or as I will now refer to you as Mahatma Mamma. Wow, how dare you write a column on parenting Ben and Birdy and then you mention them? I know what happened to Michael. He is out getting massages and indulging in spa treatments several nights a week. You would think that woman would know that. I mean you share so much personal stuff and all!

    Girl, I love you and I for one am glad I found you again. I haven't been this happy since I got TIVO.

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  123. Anonymous9:26 PM

    personally, i would love to have a detailed diary on my children and the way they grow up. birdy and ben are going to LOVE to reread the entries when they are adults. wouldn't we all love to be able to read what we were like when we were children?

    now if someone would pay ME to write it all down, it would be a tad more motivating :)

    laura

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  124. This is totally unrelated...but your Wondertime journal this week has the closing paragraph from last week's journal tagged onto the end. I *think* its probably a glitch...just thought I'd let ya know.

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  125. Kathy A.11:51 PM

    Just wanted to add one more voice of support. Mean People Suck! I love your writing and your honesty. That woman... well, I think it's nice so many people feel sad for her. I just feel angry when people think they can crap all over others. Blah! (as my children say.) You go, Catherine!

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  126. Amy (mama to Zach and Alex)2:04 AM

    Honey, don't let that woman get to you! The 99.9% of us that read you every week love you. After all...you can't please all of the people all of the time. Hell...if you can please most of the people most of the time...then you're doing GREAT! Keep up the great work and remember that most of us (well 127 of us so far) are please all of the time with your work! :)

    And to let you know...I've been "discussing" (see fighting) with my husband about letting our boys have dolls. I see no problem with it..and a lot of that has to do with the way you let Ben do his own thing not only with his clothes, but with his toys too. I'm sure if Birdy wants to wear jeans, a football jersey and a baseball cap every day...you'd let her too! LOL Keep doing what you're doing and I'll keep reading and connecting with you on that level we simply call the "Mom" level.

    Take care!!

    P.S. Michael is off in a remote jungle in South America teaching undiscovered tribes how to give the perfect massage! LOL

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  127. Blogging! You get to post your hate mail!

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  128. Wow. What an unhappy person!

    To each their own I guess. I rather enjoyed reading your column over at BC. I used to read it aloud to my husband, and we'd giggle at some of the things the kids did, or something that you or Michael did. If this person is so adamant that you're a hypocrite, then why is she still reading?

    The whole point is that no one is perfect. That's what makes us individuals. But it gives us a way to relate to one another. I think you're doing great, and I look forward to reading what you have to share.

    Lori

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  129. I religously read your column every week and pre-ordered your book then read it in one sitting. I love your writing and your parenting skills. You are awesome, that chick is just bitter.

    By the way, I think the way you dress your kids is just fine, I mean, you should see what mine wear.

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  130. Kathy A.8:37 AM

    Michael was spotted at a Burger King in Kalamazoo, MI... he was eating a Whopper with Elvis.

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  131. BetsinVT10:28 AM

    Wow! I feel sorry for that woman's kids. Our kids are going to turn out great because sometimes we think they're perfect and sometimes they drive us to the wine bottle before 5pm. You are like a friend to me, and friends share all the nitty gritty stuff. I'll bet your children will cherish this chronicle of their lives when they're all grown up. That WOMAN had better read the Wall Street Journal or the New York Times... something without emotion or life. Me? I'll be here waiting for your next tasty tidbit.

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  132. Melanie12:45 PM

    Oh Catherine - I had my second beautiful son seven weeks ago, and so finding the time to sit at the computer and even look at my emails has been impossible, much less read your column as I have done almost religously since my first son was born three years ago and I discovered you.

    But last night - both of the boys were fast asleep, the dishes done, and so I tiptoed into the office to catch up with you and yours. I actually really enjoy it when I miss your column for a few weeks so I can sit and have a really good long read as I did when I first found you and read dozens of columns at a time cry/laughing with my head down and tears squirting out of my head. My husband thought I was completely nutsoid, but I really feel as if you saved me somehow back in those early days when I was a fresh mom.

    So back to last night - it was one of those too good to be true moments, where I almost didn't breath because of the miracle of a moment just for me... and I started reading and at some point as I had just clicked on the link to your next entry when I noticed this little editors note.. and quickly hurried back to read that it was to be your second last column - and I swear to you it was like being told that a friend was going to die (okay, maybe just move far away to another country). What a horrible shocker! I almost didn't even read the last two just to keep you alive! But I did, and sure enough you are safe and well in a new place - a happy place for you I hope. Thank you for carrying on. My own experience as a mother is somehow wrapped up in yours. I hope that it does not seem too creepy or weird, but it is true. I just would not be as sane as I am without you sharing your experiences and insights. Thank you so very, very much.

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  133. Anonymous2:18 PM

    Hey Catherine,
    I just read your web journal at wondertime. I love it of course but as I was reading it I got this sense of dejavu and realized that the end of the naked crab article somehow got mixed into this week's story. Just thought you should know as there is no way to post there.

    Love ya,
    Erin

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  134. Anonymous3:18 PM

    Why did that cranky lady read your journals if she didn't like them? Wierd. Catherine, we (my husband and I) are soooo happy that you are still journaling. I even subscribed to Wondertime because of you. We love you and your family! Heather

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  135. What can I say? Everyone else has already said it for me. Why the hell was she reading your jounal if she disliked it so much? And when did you say you were some supermom of a parent? When did you ever claim that you or your kids were perfect? In fact, I seem to recall quite the opposite. You were very open and honest at admitting your shortcomings and frustrations, which I think most of us readers could relate to, which is one of the reasons your journal was so popular to begin with. What a jerk.

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  136. That, I think, is probably among the most awful things I have ever read.

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  137. Tracie12:59 AM

    Um, I almost hate to write this, but I swear when I read the "hateful" post that has generated so much mail, I chuckled to myself, thinking it was a tongue-in-cheek comment from Catherine herself. I, too, religiously read her BC column and will continue to read her new one at Wondertime. In fact they are so similar (perceptive, humorous, lyrical, and wonderful, of course) that I'm not sure why she left one site for the other. But anyway, I just wanted to establish that I am a huge fan - I am not the enemy - but gee, did anyone, ANYONE out there read that last entry as I did?? Catherine has always struck me as modest, and so, although I was confused about the reference to an absent Michael, I perceived the rest of the blog to be a playful third-person acknowledgment by Catherine herself of her own inadequacies and her possible discomfort with all the accolades she has received. I'm new to blogging; maybe there is something in the message itself I'm missing, but am I really way off base? Catherine, was that you??

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  138. I remember 2kiddosmom from her comments. What a bitter, hateful person. And clueless about what the B&B column was really all about. I always wondered if she read the column so she could always disagree.

    Anyway, we'll try not to let the door hit her in the ass on her way out if she ever visits here.

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  139. Anonymous2:31 AM

    Over the past couple of years my little sister sent me your Babycenter column almost every week, always with a similar message, something like: "You have to read THIS one! She sounds JUST LIKE YOU in this one!" It is funny how many different kinds of people identify with you.

    Thank you for sending me your Chex Mix recipe, accepting my constipation recommendations (which I fired off to you before realizing hundreds of other people had already given you the very same recommendations...), and finally for including the phrase "big bong hit" on a mainstream website. Thanks for going one step beyond others in your writing and introspection and demonstration of a deeply ethical way of living.

    And, hey, cheers to that gal who told it like it was for her, even if it wasn't all that positive. Frankly, it's gonzo postings like that one that make me read the reader comments. With the rest of us gushing our love all over you, it can get a little boring. It's even funnier when the commenter in question is taking herself (and you) VERY seriously. It must hurt to be hit where you live, so to speak, and I'm sorry for that. I'm glad you did the therapeutic thing and posted her comment on your blog.

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  140. Catherine,

    I am sorry to hear of your loss. I have been reading your columns since I was pregnant with my second, and I have always appreciated your gifts of reflection and beautiful writing. Remember the line from Steel Magnolias where Dolly Parton says "laughing through tears is my favorite emotion"? I think you've helped a lot of us to do that. I loved your book, and look forward to reading you at Wondertime and hopefully in another book.

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  141. Anonymous2:19 PM

    Hi Catherine,

    I just wanted you to know that you have so helped me in the past 6 years not to feel alone. I am the mother of twin boys now 6. Ben & Jacob. Most of what you write can sound so familiar.

    I too was so sad to see that you were not writing at Parents anymore but was so happy to find you here.

    None of us are are the best parent ... we are all just trying to be Good Enough.

    Keep writing .....

    Carol

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  142. Hahaha, I had to laugh at that one because I love how she seems to not stand you but is obviously very concerned about Michael. Hope you are ALL doing well, even the mysterious disappearing man.
    Also, I am VERY sorry to hear about your friend. I had breast issues/surgery when I was 20 and now at 29 I have to have my entire thyroid removed. Fuck cancer and stay strong babe, we're all here for you (well, maybe not that cranky broad...)Much love...

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  143. Anonymous7:57 PM

    Okay, I guess I should also take the advice of "If you can't say something nice, then don't say it at all", but what a meanie that woman is! Geez, if she was so unhappy with what she was reading, then why did she keep reading the column every week? I am the opposite because I subscribed to Family Fun AND Wondertime just to make sure I didn't miss Catherine's writing. Good writing and common sense are hard to find, especially in the area of parenting. Catherine makes it seem like messing up as a mom sometimes is okay, and she has inspired me to take a little extra time to mindfully parent my two boys!

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  144. Anonymous9:26 PM

    I found your BabyCenter column a year or more ago and have read every entry and have also followed you here and over to Wondertime. I think it is a testament to your writing and storytelling skills as well as your wonderful honesty to say that I've read all of these articles and I'm not even a parent yet (but soon!!). Your articles have given voice to my own concerns about being a parent (lack of patience at times) and to feelings/conflicts that I know I am bound to have. But more than that, I often find myself filing away your parenting techniques for future use because I hope I can parent the same way. Even as you admit you're not perfect, and who is (except for this lady, obviously) you really have shown the world what it means to be an excellent parent worthy of emulating.

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  145. OMG! I've been trying to find you again since I moved away! I used to read you on BabyCenter every day when I was pregnant. Then I kind of fell behind, and then my brain stopped working and I forgot WHERE I was reading you!
    I'm glad I've found ya again!

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  146. Catherine, I just caught up on your posts on Wondertime (silly me - I bookmarked the page and thought you only had one journal entry when, in actuality, you had many! Whoops!) and I have to say that my absolute favorite was "No Rest in the Restroom." I laughed so hard I cried. I am still giggling as I think of Birdy's comments. You capture her sweetness so perfectly. My son is 3, going on 4, and so much of what she says reminds me of him so I can just completely relate.

    Okay, so AMEN about the swim diapers! Me too, sister! But I think my favorite is, "It's okay, Mama! It's just undies stuck up my crack." I can't stop laughing about that one.

    You have amazing kids. I take such delight in reading about them. So glad you're doing this - you are a lifeline!!

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  147. In case you read this comment, even though it is the 147th one, I want to say that I love your writing. I have been reading your column since the beginning, and I want to thank you for taking the time to do that. I have learned a lot from your experiences. As long as you keep writing (please, please keep writing!) I will keep reading, and loving it.

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  148. Anonymous11:45 PM

    Catherine, you are the reason I feel okay about parenting. You make me realize that I don't have to be perfect to be a wonderful mom. I spend so much time waiting for your new weekly entries to post so I can catch up on you, Ben and Birdy and all of your wonderful stories. It is fabulous to know that you are open about your less than stellar parenting moments - it makes the rest of feel okay about ours.

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  149. I am so glad Babycenter let you post this blog site! I am signed up and hungrily reading the disney/wondertime thing but this should be fun too. I have really been reacting to your leaving in odd ways. I feel sad for all of us who will miss you so and then I realized that I must REDOUBLE my own efforts to make REAL connections with people I can see and know. Maybe I can do that via this blog site but I rarely post and mainly browse and enjoy. Remember that Catherine reads EVERY POST so no one will be skipped. good luck finding Michael, ha ha ha---he must be busy "massaging" people to hang out with you guys or get into your stories but I must admit that it took me a minute or two to catch your PLUG for him in your first blog here. so cute. I wish you still lived in CA, I would surely come and find you and convince you to be my friend. But we do have relatives we visit often in boston.....so sorry it is so hard to not be a stalker ( ;) ). Anyway, funny enough, I was ordering my first item EVER on Babycenter and noticed your book on a super sale back in late july or early august and got it. I had not gotten through much of it before the news came out. I was glad to be able to savor it knowing I might be done. keep writing, keep turning them into books, marvelous completely!! share not so great parenting stories, we all have or STOP ourselves from having those moments too. you are helping our kids as well as yours. My FAVORITE post to babycenter (still laughing when I think about the survey I took of theirs a few months back where I admitted that I really only go there to read your posts---I guess seeing the impact of losing you for not paying you the big bucks on their part huh??) BUT it is the kindergarden first night meeting. what do you want for your child? Happiness. I wish the same, of course with all of our good genes I assume that the brains will be there at least enough. this is from a mom with an intelligent child that cannot figure out ANY way to get her to actually PEE in the potty but all in time right? or I can be the one exception to that she wont be in diapers in high school saying.....I guess there are worse fates. But happiness and peace and love, what more can we really want. The closeness and dancing before bedtime rituals.....I love it all, keep it coming. How did you possibly NOT respond to those Baby center posts all this time!???

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  150. BTW, I have a favorites DIRECTORY dragged to the top of my favorites menu with the blog link, wondertime and the old BC link. But I will pass along the wondertime link as much as I can. best of luck DM (Dalhi mama)

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  151. Anonymous12:54 PM

    3kiddosmom sounds like a miserable bitch. she doesn't appreciate your incredible talent. screw her, Catherine. i love you. :)

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  152. Just read your latest Wondertime column. Isn't it funny how the things everyone tells you about second children are true? You fly by the seat of your pants more, and everything's "been there, done that" in a way. I have to make myself stop to think, "I haven't been here yet with HER, so pay attention!"

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  153. Catherine,

    Love you. Ignore the people who don't share the love. Send them lovingkindness if you can, if not, just send it to yourself. I'm sending it to you. You're an amazing woman. Thank you for all that you do, and for the nights your book kept me up late, giggling in bed...

    Sandra

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  154. Anonymous11:27 PM

    What a horrible woman.
    If it bothers her that much what was written in your column, then DON'T FREAKIN' READ IT!

    I absolutely loved your Baby Center entries, as well as your book. I bought it for my Mom and sisters for Mother's Day last year. I gushed to all my friends with children about how wonderful the book was, and forced them to read it. I was so sad to hear that your Baby Center column was ending, but then I found this site. All is well with the world.

    Thank you so much for continuing to write! You have a wonderful talent, and I look forward to your posts every week.

    Regina, TX

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  155. Anonymous11:36 PM

    That lady is such a bitch. Can I say that? Anyway, why did she feel so compelled to say that to you? Listen, don't let that get you down. She can't even spell correctly. I may not be the best with words, but at least I can spell simple words like "insensitive". Okay, now I'm being mean, but I think she deserves it. You are not a hypocrite at all. You write what you feel, and I'm so envious of you that you are able to express those feelings so wonderfully through words! On another note, I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm actually running the "Race for the Cure" this Sunday in Mason, OH in honor of my grandmother who is a breast cancer survivor.

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  156. Anonymous8:34 AM

    The one thing I don't see anyone saying is this bitch followed you from babycenter. If she didn't like your stuff . . . what the hell is the point of that. I hope you don't lose any sleep or time over her. You have plenty of people who get you and appreciate how you share your imperfections. . . . which is a really hard thing for anyone to do!JB!

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  157. Anonymous5:16 PM

    This comment has nothing to do with the freakshow person who posted such a bizarre comment but anyway... I just read your newest entry at Wondertime and it almost broke my heart. It's so hard to feel that we're doing the right things with our children. My daily thought is "Oh my! If I do such and such will she grow up and have the worst case of mental illness ever seen?!" Or whatver. But after reading your BabyCenter column for four years and following you here and to Wondertime I realized we're all turning our kids into basket cases! Seriously though, I appreciate being able to read and relate to something REAL. So often parents only receive negative feedback. That said I'd like to put some good juju out there and say to all you awesome moms and dads GOOD WORK! YOUR KIDS ARE COOL!

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  158. Amanda10:53 PM

    Ha! I just wanted to add yet another positive word.

    I love reading your columns/ blogs/ whatever. You make me laugh and you encourage me to do better.

    I feel a bit sorry for the person who feels the need to be so vaguely critical.

    Anyway, just like everyone else in the world it seems (minus this one person, of course), I'm happy to have found this blog and the Wondertime deal so I can keep reading about y'all.

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  159. Anonymous10:41 AM

    C,

    Good grief. Don't like it don't read it end of story. What on earth did they think a journal about KIDS AND DAILY LIFE with them would contain?! I echo the many other sentiments that we love having your family a part of ours.

    Sorry to hear about your loss.

    Have a wonderful day.
    Jen

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  160. Anonymous9:59 AM

    Hey Catherine! I found Michael. Better watch out! Apparently he's marrying that other girl writing about her pregnancy on BabyCenter.
    Mary Beth :-)

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    CONGRATULATIONS Karen and Michael!
    Truly, I am touched ant Michaels sentiments- this marriage is wonderful, such a representation of your commitment and love toward one another.

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  161. Laura1:11 PM

    I "was" on a messgae board - one I had loved for years, truly the only friends I had sice moving to Seattle. THen I put my foot in my mouth - and all heck broke loose...and one of them email me privately - scollding me for always putting up personal stuff in my life (I'm quite open) and judging me and my family and my parenting style (and this person is kid-less!)

    It hurt

    Allot

    I've been away from my message board and friends and feel lonely

    One day I'll get a harder shell to handle it

    I admire you - and you courage to speak your mind, and let everyone give you their opinions.

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  162. Laura1:31 PM

    PS - I type fast and could care less about my typos - but honestly I went to college and those fools gave me a degree...

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  163. Anonymous7:09 PM

    I read your BC columns and really enjoyed them. So much of what you wrote rang so true for me, and in a very entertaining way too. I hardly ever posted a comment though because I just could not handle that "community". I mean people were so quick to rain down the harshest judgements on the mildest statements. It seems like every bulletin board over there, no matter how innocuous the subject, contained at least one posting along the lines of "You are the worst mother ever! I feel sorry for your children!" Do you let your 5 year old have sleepovers? Well "How can you farm your kids out like that? Why did you even have kids if you're not going to raise them?" (I swear this was an actual comment.) I can't even imagine what it would be like to bare my soul and my family, warts and all, every week over there, and then actually read people's comments. (I think I would hire a reader, like a royal taster, to pre-read the comments and delete anything even mildly critical before I saw it.
    Keep up the good work!
    yours in sisterhood/motherhood,
    another mom

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  164. Trina2:33 PM

    I know I won't be saying anything different from what everyone else has already said, but just know that you have more fans than foes out there.
    Abviously from all the supporting comments.

    That woman must not realize how hypocritical she sounds, saying she ADMIRES your ability to share your private life and then condemning you for it by saying you were insensitive to your children for sharing everything they did for all to see (or read). Talk about speaking from both sides of your mouth!

    Anyway, I am a mother of 2 also and my oldest and your youngest are about 2 months apart, so as you blogged about Birdy growing up, I could relate to pretty much everything. I laughed so many times, out loud even. And even teared up a few times too. I started reading your column when it started and have loved every bit of it. I am glad to know I can come here and get a dose of the Newmans from time to time. Makes me feel normal and not alone to read about your life. Now that I have 2 children I can relate to alot of the past columns at BabyCenter about having a school age child and toddler to take care of.

    Keep on blogging. There are so many of us out here who love your writing because it's REAL LIFE.

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  165. lperry9@comcast.net1:09 PM

    good lord but some people have time on their hands! If I had enough time during my day to read columns that annoyed me and then post something pointless and bitchy I would definItely (I'm such a spelling snob!) question the job I was doing with my kids!

    I can only hope that the number of us who are moved and inspired by what you write vastly outnumber the... others.

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